Comments on: Are You Afraid To Be Alone? http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/ The Blog of Amanda Linehan Fri, 27 Jan 2012 13:35:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Celia http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-2038 Celia Mon, 29 Mar 2010 01:11:54 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-2038 I am widowed and have been alone for the past 5 1/2 yrs. Alone has it's advantages and disadvantages. The up side, you can do whatever you want go and come with no set time and just relax being you. If you want to go around the house singing just as loud as you want then go ahead nobody but God will hear you and he thinks your voice is beautiful. The down side, sometimes you do get lonely and need someone to talk to of the opposite sex. You need that companionship. It is nice to have someone to go out with once in a while because it does get kinda lonely going out to dinner alone and everyone around you just looks and wonders why you are dining alone. Well if someone would ask you out you wouldn't be dining alone. It does get lonely at times, been there, done that and still doing it. Everyone needs alone time as well as needing someone tot alk to or hang out with. I am widowed and have been alone for the past 5 1/2 yrs. Alone has it’s advantages and disadvantages. The up side, you can do whatever you want go and come with no set time and just relax being you. If you want to go around the house singing just as loud as you want then go ahead nobody but God will hear you and he thinks your voice is beautiful. The down side, sometimes you do get lonely and need someone to talk to of the opposite sex. You need that companionship. It is nice to have someone to go out with once in a while because it does get kinda lonely going out to dinner alone and everyone around you just looks and wonders why you are dining alone. Well if someone would ask you out you wouldn’t be dining alone. It does get lonely at times, been there, done that and still doing it. Everyone needs alone time as well as needing someone tot alk to or hang out with.

]]> By: Amanda Linehan http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-337 Amanda Linehan Sun, 22 Feb 2009 14:37:19 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-337 Hi Fran - Thanks for your comment! It's difficult to be by yourself after being with someone for so long. Good luck! Hi Fran – Thanks for your comment! It’s difficult to be by yourself after being with someone for so long. Good luck!

]]> By: Fran http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-332 Fran Sun, 22 Feb 2009 05:20:42 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-332 Thanks for the post Amanda, I really needed it right now. I'm JUST learning to be alone after being in relationships forever so it's a difficult lesson, but all of what you've said in this article is true. <abbr><em>Fran’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.highonhealth.org/whole-grain-buttermilk-pancakes/" rel="nofollow">Whole Grain Buttermilk Pancakes</a></abbr></em> Thanks for the post Amanda, I really needed it right now. I’m JUST learning to be alone after being in relationships forever so it’s a difficult lesson, but all of what you’ve said in this article is true.

Fran’s last blog post..Whole Grain Buttermilk Pancakes

]]> By: Top 10 valuable posts week 3 http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-316 Top 10 valuable posts week 3 Wed, 18 Feb 2009 21:45:24 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-316 [...] Are you afraid of being alone? [...] [...] Are you afraid of being alone? [...]

]]> By: Amanda Linehan http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-314 Amanda Linehan Wed, 18 Feb 2009 02:20:25 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-314 Henie - Thanks for your comment! I think you are right on - discovering yourself can be scary! But embracing who you are helps a lot. Hope you stop by again :) Henie – Thanks for your comment! I think you are right on – discovering yourself can be scary! But embracing who you are helps a lot. Hope you stop by again :)

]]> By: Henie http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-309 Henie Sun, 15 Feb 2009 17:48:16 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-309 Hi Amanda! I found you by way of Trey...so nice to say hello! :~) While I consider myself a mega extrovert, I never did mind my own company. In fact I spend a lot of time alone while nurturing my inner-self, hanging out, playing and really saying hello to my self...but sometimes what you discover about yourself can be scary...scary only because you didn't take the time to know it and embrace it. Yes, I love being alone so much so but I also have to watch for the danger of using it as protective armor against the world outside. Thanks so much for a very stimulating post! I look forward to more! :~) Best Always, Henie <abbr><em>Henie’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.hennartonline.com/ISayUSay/2009/02/14/passion-101/" rel="nofollow">Passion 101</a></abbr></em> Hi Amanda!

I found you by way of Trey…so nice to say hello! :~)

While I consider myself a mega extrovert, I never did mind my own company. In fact I spend a lot of time alone while nurturing my inner-self, hanging out, playing and really saying hello to my self…but sometimes what you discover about yourself can be scary…scary only because you didn’t take the time to know it and embrace it.

Yes, I love being alone so much so but I also have to watch for the danger of using it as protective armor against the world outside.

Thanks so much for a very stimulating post! I look forward to more! :~)

Best Always,
Henie

Henie’s last blog post..Passion 101

]]> By: Amanda Linehan http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-307 Amanda Linehan Fri, 13 Feb 2009 16:37:30 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-307 Roger - I agree, time alone can happen even around others. Daphne - Yeah, some people have no problem spending time alone. I'm sure there are a lot of introverts reading this blog! Trey - Right, for those of us who are more inclined to spend time alone - we need to work on being more social! Andrew - I get what you are saying about being unattached. I think the bias is definitely for being with someone, so what you have to say doesn't sound weird at all. Roger – I agree, time alone can happen even around others.

Daphne – Yeah, some people have no problem spending time alone. I’m sure there are a lot of introverts reading this blog!

Trey – Right, for those of us who are more inclined to spend time alone – we need to work on being more social!

Andrew – I get what you are saying about being unattached. I think the bias is definitely for being with someone, so what you have to say doesn’t sound weird at all.

]]> By: Amanda Linehan http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-306 Amanda Linehan Fri, 13 Feb 2009 16:31:20 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-306 Gennaro - That's right. Enjoying your solitude requires that you also spend time with people. It wouldn't be very fun to be alone all the time. Tom - Good point about avoiding toxic relationships. Solitude is definitely preferable! Chris - Definitely, if you are not comfortable with yourself it's not going to change when you are in a relationship. Gennaro – That’s right. Enjoying your solitude requires that you also spend time with people. It wouldn’t be very fun to be alone all the time.

Tom – Good point about avoiding toxic relationships. Solitude is definitely preferable!

Chris – Definitely, if you are not comfortable with yourself it’s not going to change when you are in a relationship.

]]> By: Andrew http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-305 Andrew Fri, 13 Feb 2009 14:25:19 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-305 Amanda, Personally, being alone is not something which I personally have a problem with, since I have an introverted temperament, I live alone (apart from two cats which I am temporarily minding and the four kittens which one of them had on my couch a few hours ago) and I like to do lots of things alone. For me personally, one of my challenges is to become a little more sociable and spend more time with others. Another challenge which I have is overcoming the stigma of being unattached and in my early thirties. Even though I love being alone most of the time, I can't help get the feeling that I am somehow 'not normal,' and that there is something wrong with me because I am not yet married. I realize this may potentially sound a little strange, but it is a feeling which I sometimes get. <abbr><em>Andrew’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.goodhonestdollar.com/free-her-fiats-big-call-on-burma-part-2" rel="nofollow">Free her - Fiat’s big call on Burma (part 2)</a></abbr></em> Amanda,

Personally, being alone is not something which I personally have a problem with, since I have an introverted temperament, I live alone (apart from two cats which I am temporarily minding and the four kittens which one of them had on my couch a few hours ago) and I like to do lots of things alone.

For me personally, one of my challenges is to become a little more sociable and spend more time with others.

Another challenge which I have is overcoming the stigma of being unattached and in my early thirties. Even though I love being alone most of the time, I can’t help get the feeling that I am somehow ‘not normal,’ and that there is something wrong with me because I am not yet married. I realize this may potentially sound a little strange, but it is a feeling which I sometimes get.

Andrew’s last blog post..Free her – Fiat’s big call on Burma (part 2)

]]> By: Trey - Swollen Thumb Entertainment http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-304 Trey - Swollen Thumb Entertainment Fri, 13 Feb 2009 05:22:38 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=398#comment-304 I've always been a very introverted person. I've spent plenty of time alone, so I don't have to make effort to be by myself. However, since getting married, I've had to work a little bit more to have my alone time without sacrificing the marriage. I do agree though that it's important to be comfortable with yourself. Nobody deserves to be your physical overcompensation for your inability to handle solitude. Don't use someone to escape your demons. Confront your demons, and learn to accept solitude, that way you can truly BE with someone else, and have it mean something. Nice post. :-) <abbr><em>Trey - Swollen Thumb Entertainment’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.swollenthumb.com/2009/02/everybodys-writing-nowadays/" rel="nofollow">Everybody’s Writing Nowadays</a></abbr></em> I’ve always been a very introverted person. I’ve spent plenty of time alone, so I don’t have to make effort to be by myself. However, since getting married, I’ve had to work a little bit more to have my alone time without sacrificing the marriage.

I do agree though that it’s important to be comfortable with yourself. Nobody deserves to be your physical overcompensation for your inability to handle solitude. Don’t use someone to escape your demons. Confront your demons, and learn to accept solitude, that way you can truly BE with someone else, and have it mean something.

Nice post. :-)

Trey – Swollen Thumb Entertainment’s last blog post..Everybody’s Writing Nowadays

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