Comments on: Use Your Eyes; Learn To See http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/ The Blog of Amanda Linehan Fri, 27 Jan 2012 13:35:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Amanda Linehan http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-560 Amanda Linehan Thu, 16 Apr 2009 00:05:38 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-560 Hi Susan - Thanks for your comment. :) I think you are absolutely right about giving a gift to yourself when you "see" someone. What you do for other people you also do for yourself, and, in fact, you may give yourself permission to simply be you as you see others for what they really are. Actually, I think the way that you treat others and the way that you treat yourself are woven together very tightly ;) Thanks for stopping by! Hi Keith - I am positive I will do a follow-up post now. Keep an eye out :) Hi Karen - Oh yes, very good point - when we suspend our assumptions about people we can see the potential "good" and the things we may need to watch out for. Astute observation. Hi Daphne - Great! A reminder is sometimes all we need. Hi Chris - Yes, I agree. People are endlessly interesting if you let them tell their story. :) I think I enjoy people more with this approach. Hi Susan – Thanks for your comment. :) I think you are absolutely right about giving a gift to yourself when you “see” someone. What you do for other people you also do for yourself, and, in fact, you may give yourself permission to simply be you as you see others for what they really are. Actually, I think the way that you treat others and the way that you treat yourself are woven together very tightly ;) Thanks for stopping by!

Hi Keith – I am positive I will do a follow-up post now. Keep an eye out :)

Hi Karen – Oh yes, very good point – when we suspend our assumptions about people we can see the potential “good” and the things we may need to watch out for. Astute observation.

Hi Daphne – Great! A reminder is sometimes all we need.

Hi Chris – Yes, I agree. People are endlessly interesting if you let them tell their story. :) I think I enjoy people more with this approach.

]]> By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-559 Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching Wed, 15 Apr 2009 17:41:14 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-559 Thanks for this post. What comes up for me when I read this is how different my approach to interacting with people has become in the past few years -- I used to be interested in talking about some subject with them, like politics or philosophy, but now I have no interest in that at all -- I want to know them, not their position about some issue. Talking to people is so much more rewarding with this approach I think. Thanks for this post. What comes up for me when I read this is how different my approach to interacting with people has become in the past few years — I used to be interested in talking about some subject with them, like politics or philosophy, but now I have no interest in that at all — I want to know them, not their position about some issue. Talking to people is so much more rewarding with this approach I think.

]]> By: Daphne http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-558 Daphne Wed, 15 Apr 2009 13:01:13 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-558 Amanda, This post comes at a good time for me, because I'm starting to agree or disagree, and use right or wrong thinking again. Thanks for the reminder to just see without judging. You're so right that this is what we all want! <abbr><em>Daphne’s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/JoyfulDays/~3/j8V_UCgUIjw/" rel="nofollow">Attaining Spiritual Peace</a></abbr></em> Amanda,

This post comes at a good time for me, because I’m starting to agree or disagree, and use right or wrong thinking again. Thanks for the reminder to just see without judging. You’re so right that this is what we all want!

Daphne’s last blog post..Attaining Spiritual Peace

]]> By: Karen Chaffee http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-556 Karen Chaffee Wed, 15 Apr 2009 04:37:47 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-556 You are right. "Seeing" someone as they truly are without judging yields many benefits. This allows us to recognize the potential, the good, the uniqueness in all people. On the other side of the spectrum, it keeps our assessment honest enough to also recognize any red flags or danger signals, which, unfortunately, also might be present. Karen You are right. “Seeing” someone as they truly are without judging yields many benefits. This allows us to recognize the potential, the good, the uniqueness in all people. On the other side of the spectrum, it keeps our assessment honest enough to also recognize any red flags or danger signals, which, unfortunately, also might be present.

Karen

]]> By: Keith http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-555 Keith Wed, 15 Apr 2009 02:01:44 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-555 Yes, you are so right Amanda! We can get caught up in ourselves sometimes and forget that the other person has a "self" as well. I would love to see you follow up this article with another. :-) <abbr><em>Keith’s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thinkformoneycom/~3/STMbyuLY3tw/do-you-believe.html" rel="nofollow">Do You Believe?</a></abbr></em> Yes, you are so right Amanda! We can get caught up in ourselves sometimes and forget that the other person has a “self” as well. I would love to see you follow up this article with another. :-)

Keith’s last blog post..Do You Believe?

]]> By: Susan Pogorzelski http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-554 Susan Pogorzelski Wed, 15 Apr 2009 00:58:50 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-554 Amanda -- what a beautiful post! Relationships, connecting with another person is one of the most beautiful facets of life, and sometimes the most confusing. While it seems we want the other person to be who they are, we sometimes tend to have high expectations of the other person (perhaps due to high expectations of ourselves?), thus our perception of them might be skewed. I think Tom has it exactly right -- we ask "what can you do for me, why are you in my life" instead of just appreciating their being there, being them. It's this part of your post that really struck a chord with me, however: "When we build relationships, we are often puzzled at exactly how a connection forms. Most of the time our relationships occur spontaneously, and we don’t have the first clue as to what actually happened. " Honestly, all of my strongest relationships have occurred when I wasn't expecting them and even now years later for older relationships, merely days for newer ones, I can't quite believe how that relationship was formed. The details seem fuzzy, but then you begin to realize that the details may not really matter. It doesn't matter how they came into your life, as long as they're there now. And this: "To notice (and appreciate) these things about another is a gift you give to them" is wonderful as well...Because maybe it's not just a gift you give to them, but one you give yourself as well. A beautiful post, Amanda -- so well written and thought out, it truly gives me so much to think about. Thanks. <abbr><em>Susan Pogorzelski’s last blog post..<a href="http://susanpogorzelski.com/home/why-i-twitter-why-i-write" rel="nofollow">Why I Twitter, Why I Write</a></abbr></em> Amanda — what a beautiful post! Relationships, connecting with another person is one of the most beautiful facets of life, and sometimes the most confusing. While it seems we want the other person to be who they are, we sometimes tend to have high expectations of the other person (perhaps due to high expectations of ourselves?), thus our perception of them might be skewed. I think Tom has it exactly right — we ask “what can you do for me, why are you in my life” instead of just appreciating their being there, being them.

It’s this part of your post that really struck a chord with me, however: “When we build relationships, we are often puzzled at exactly how a connection forms. Most of the time our relationships occur spontaneously, and we don’t have the first clue as to what actually happened. ”

Honestly, all of my strongest relationships have occurred when I wasn’t expecting them and even now years later for older relationships, merely days for newer ones, I can’t quite believe how that relationship was formed. The details seem fuzzy, but then you begin to realize that the details may not really matter. It doesn’t matter how they came into your life, as long as they’re there now.

And this: “To notice (and appreciate) these things about another is a gift you give to them” is wonderful as well…Because maybe it’s not just a gift you give to them, but one you give yourself as well.

A beautiful post, Amanda — so well written and thought out, it truly gives me so much to think about. Thanks.

Susan Pogorzelski’s last blog post..Why I Twitter, Why I Write

]]> By: Amanda Linehan http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-553 Amanda Linehan Wed, 15 Apr 2009 00:43:36 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-553 Hi Tom - Thanks :) Maybe I should put a call out on this blog for readers to comment with practical tips for "seeing" others. I'd be curious as to what people had to say. Hi Sara - Thanks for your comment! Your "automatic filters" has me thinking now. I wasn't planning a follow up, but maybe I will. Thanks for the compliment on the picture. To me, it seemed like something should be in the photo that wasn't there - hence "invisible." I thought it would be great for this post. :) Hi Keith - Thanks for your comment! "I really felt it in my heart" - this is one of the best compliments I could receive. I'm glad you enjoyed it. I think that we don't always think about the fact that people exist in and of themselves, without our approval or disapproval. But, I like the way you talked about keeping in mind "who you are," while you keep in mind that they are "who they are." Being able to really connect with our self can help us remember that other people have a self too. Hi Tom – Thanks :) Maybe I should put a call out on this blog for readers to comment with practical tips for “seeing” others. I’d be curious as to what people had to say.

Hi Sara – Thanks for your comment! Your “automatic filters” has me thinking now. I wasn’t planning a follow up, but maybe I will. Thanks for the compliment on the picture. To me, it seemed like something should be in the photo that wasn’t there – hence “invisible.” I thought it would be great for this post. :)

Hi Keith – Thanks for your comment! “I really felt it in my heart” – this is one of the best compliments I could receive. I’m glad you enjoyed it. I think that we don’t always think about the fact that people exist in and of themselves, without our approval or disapproval. But, I like the way you talked about keeping in mind “who you are,” while you keep in mind that they are “who they are.” Being able to really connect with our self can help us remember that other people have a self too.

]]> By: Keith http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-550 Keith Tue, 14 Apr 2009 18:46:17 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-550 I am so impressed with this post! I really felt it in my heart. This is something I really desire to do and I feel I have improved a lot in this area. Still room for more growth though and I will welcome it. When I interact with people, I work to be ever aware of the fact that they are "who they are" and I am "who I am" and allow them the same thing I would like to receive and that is room to actually be who I am, with my view and my thoughts. I cannot say I do this perfectly but I am sure trying to get there. When I succeed at this it is an amazing feeling. I experience a real "freeing up" if that makes sense and I notice something of the same in the other person. :-) <abbr><em>Keith’s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thinkformoneycom/~3/STMbyuLY3tw/do-you-believe.html" rel="nofollow">Do You Believe?</a></abbr></em> I am so impressed with this post! I really felt it in my heart. This is something I really desire to do and I feel I have improved a lot in this area. Still room for more growth though and I will welcome it. When I interact with people, I work to be ever aware of the fact that they are “who they are” and I am “who I am” and allow them the same thing I would like to receive and that is room to actually be who I am, with my view and my thoughts. I cannot say I do this perfectly but I am sure trying to get there. When I succeed at this it is an amazing feeling. I experience a real “freeing up” if that makes sense and I notice something of the same in the other person. :-)

Keith’s last blog post..Do You Believe?

]]> By: Sara http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-549 Sara Tue, 14 Apr 2009 18:06:30 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-549 Amanda, It's me again...I forgot to tell you that I like the photo you used with this post. It was perfect! <abbr><em>Sara’s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/sarahealy/soulconnections/~3/UDqDJxIYylg/" rel="nofollow">Story Photo Challenge: What is this flower saying?</a></abbr></em> Amanda,

It’s me again…I forgot to tell you that I like the photo you used with this post. It was perfect!

Sara’s last blog post..Story Photo Challenge: What is this flower saying?

]]> By: Sara http://amandalinehan.com/use-your-eyes-learn-to-see/comment-page-1/#comment-548 Sara Tue, 14 Apr 2009 18:05:12 +0000 http://amandalinehan.com/?p=499#comment-548 Amanda, This is a powerful post and it requires some real cogitating, as my grandpa would say. I agree that we need to see people without the filters we've been taught to employ, but, like Tom, I think this is hard to do, but that's what I really liked about this article -- it offers me a real challenge! Can I look at my family, friends, colleagues and really "see" them without judgments/filters? My first thought is that I need to identify my automatic filters because then I'm more aware when they appear. Are you planning a follow-up to this post? Well, you've certainly got me thinking. Thanks :~) <abbr><em>Sara’s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/sarahealy/soulconnections/~3/UDqDJxIYylg/" rel="nofollow">Story Photo Challenge: What is this flower saying?</a></abbr></em> Amanda,

This is a powerful post and it requires some real cogitating, as my grandpa would say. I agree that we need to see people without the filters we’ve been taught to employ, but, like Tom, I think this is hard to do, but that’s what I really liked about this article — it offers me a real challenge!

Can I look at my family, friends, colleagues and really “see” them without judgments/filters? My first thought is that I need to identify my automatic filters because then I’m more aware when they appear. Are you planning a follow-up to this post? Well, you’ve certainly got me thinking. Thanks :~)

Sara’s last blog post..Story Photo Challenge: What is this flower saying?

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